Love sees no color

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Keep in mind my blog is not only about me being a mom its about everything that led me to being a mom and then some.  I post what’s on my mind and what’s in my heart at that time and today how my blended, interracial family came about is what is on my mind.  With all the hate I see between races on social media I look at my beautiful mixed family and think of how lost I’d be without them and how grateful I am to have them just as they are. 

Almost 6 years ago I was in a terrible place in my life. I was partying all the time drinking almost every night. June of 2010 I found out I had to come home and I wouldn’t be able to finish college due to our financial situation and my school was costing roughly $85,000 a year. I let it be what it was and “took a break” well that’s what I called it lol.  I actually just went clubbing and drank all the time. To this day I will not lie or candy coat my life, I made the decisions I did and I learned from my mistakes.  I wasn’t perfect I battled with my own demons for years and I used different things to cope with my problems. Which maybe one day ill go into the back story of that but not this time. Back to June 2010 at the end of June I was home doing whatever, well One day my step father called to let my mom know that their friends son was coming over he wanted to see her because he was home from the military. I remember the butterflies started to flutter again, see I had a crush on this guy since I was 10 years old. I remember telling my best friend at the time Im going to marry that boy One day.  I was always so shy around him One year I bought him a watch and wrote him a 4 page letter telling him how much I liked him lol he blew me off :'(:'(:'(. Then when I was 14-15 I found out he was having a baby with his girlfriend at the time and at that point I figured I’d never get a chance so I let it be.  BTW he was 3-4 years older than me.

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When I was 15-16 I found out they broke up but I didn’t give it a second thought, it was what it was. Sometime during highschool he called my step dad asking if he could take me on a date my step dad of course said no BTW I didn’t talk to him for a week lol.  When I was about 17-18 I found out all around the same time that he had gotten married and that he was in a coma and they didn’t know if he was going to make it. I felt like my world was crashing down around me I cried for weeks.  Some months down the line I found out he came out of a coma but he had a lot of work ahead of him. Fast forward to 2010 he walked up to the front door and I remember blushing so hard when I opened it (could it be the man of my dreams for years is standing in our kitchen single) it was kind of awkward for a moment.  We all sat down and we talked and we laugh, I cooked brownies And we ran around the house chasing each other with the batter.  That was Just the beginning of us.  Im not going to go through our whole 6 years together but I will explain why my topic is what it is.  Love has no color this Man and his son changed my whole life for the better, they made me want to be a better person. They helped me out of such a dark place with all the Love they showed me. I remember when we first started dating and people would ask his son if I was his mom I never got offended because I never wanted to take his moms place she’s a great mother but he would smile and say no thats MY CHRISSY it always made my heart melt.

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I still to this day battle with myself but when I look at how far my relationship has come despite all the difference we have just because of the color of our skin. We argued once about racial jokes, we have gotten looks because of our color difference, we have battled with family member because of our color difference. There are a ton of things we have been through in our relationship that probably would have never come up if we were the same race but we aren’t and for us that is perfectly OK because Love sees NO COLOR

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We have been through a lot together. We have taken breaks from one another but we are always drawn back to each other. We are so opposite yet so similar, we do the best we can as individuals and hope that it’s enough to get us through as a couple because before you can ever love someone else fully you have to love yourself and let me tell you before this Man and his son I didn’t love myself. They gave me so much more and opened my eyes to what I can be and what I wanted to be. Now almost 6 years later my love for them has only grown I thank our son & his mom every day because without him I would never be the mother I am today. Life teaches you a lot and if you listen it will give you so much joy and happiness. Ill go more into coparenting in another post :):):). These 6 years have brought us joy, heartache, happiness etc I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I have gotten to welcome a beautiful baby girl into the world with the Man of my dreams and soon we will be welcoming another son into the mix :):):).

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We laugh, we cry,  we get mad,  we yell,  we love,  we break up,  we get back together,  my love doesn’t see that his skin color is different from mine my love sees the passion and honesty in his eyes. My love sees into his soul that’s pure and fragile just like mine.  My love sees the amazing father he is to our kids.  So no my love doesn’t see color. My love sees a man that will climb any mountain, cross any sea just to make sure his family is safe & Happy.  That is my LOVE.

Please don’t get it confused we aren’t this perfect couple lol we argue like nobodys business but here lately we have found alternatives like actually communicating with one another and not assuming things.

All art is designed/created by my fiance.

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Between the sheets

Lingerie Before VS After Kids: What do you wear to bed in mommyland?

 

Interesting topic right? I am that mommy that doesn’t feel like I need to change what I sleep in or even what I wear because I’m now a “mommy” sweet heart I will dress how ever I want and if you have a problem look the other way.

Before I had kids I dressed Sexy for my man when we went out & when we went to bed 9 times out of 10 whatever I started off wear to bed didn’t last long. We had a very loving skin to skin relationship before our daughter. I say that because we had our son but we only got him on the weekends. I always kept clothes close to the bed or even right next to my head in case I had to throw something on quick.

After we had our daughter well sex kinda went from all the time to none existent. I was always tired and because I breastfed my tits were so sensitive. So I didn’t want to be touched period, there were no if and or buts about that. At first I wore sports bras to bed with shorts because with breastfeeding leaking freaking sucks ok and I didn’t like waking up to a wet boobs just not ok with me.  Once I stopped leaking I went back to sleeping in my birth suit because that’s the most comfortable sleep in my own opinion. I still sleep with clothes close in case I need to cover up when we get a knock on the door. See I’m that woman that loves to dress sexy for her man no matter where we are going, no matter what season it is and my man loves for me to dress sexy for him. We have our lazy days that we sit around in sweats and etc. but when we go out together we dress nice.

p.S No worries the sex drive came back 😉 obviously since we are expecting again.

I am very comfortable in my own skin so other peoples opinions do not bother me. I will not change who I am or what I wear based on some weird standard that “mothers” are suppose to have. Even when I’m pregnant I don’t see anything wrong with dressing sexy belly covered because my childs movements may freak people out lol.

Even though you can barely tell lol I was 12 weeks pregnant with my daughter in this picture 🙂 I’m a MOM I’m NOT dead!

And I know the shoes make my feet look huge!! lol I’m ok with that they are cute.

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With all that being said lol it is safe to say my lingerie has not changed 🙂

Don’t lose the spark in your relationship due to having children, make sure things stay spicy and sexy in your relationship. Most of us moms lose our sex drive after having kids and I mean why wouldn’t we which I will go into a whole post on this soon because I will be posting about the “joys of new motherhood”. Just remember sex is still a very important part of your relationship once you get your groove back it is all smooth sailing from there 🙂

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Homeschooling Celiyna week 1

So this week has been super busy for my little princess and I. We have started homeschooling this week on top of I am proud to say she is potty trained!! First off I am very happy I was able to potty train her in less than a week :). No more diapers well until Jackson gets here 😂😂. So why have I decided to go ahead and “homeschool” my daughter? First off the way her birthday falls school is already going on so no place will take her until August plus once she does start school I will be hopefully be putting her in a private school.   So why not just wait until she goes to school? That is what schools are for Right?  Wrong children learn from home first even if you don’t teach them they pick up what they hear and see.  So why not let that be a positive learning experience. I have become a Usborne Books & More consultant which has given me a great chance to start my kids there own little library which will continue to grow.  For more information about Usborne books & more contact me.

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Back on the subject homeschooling so my princess is really smart I know everyone thinks their kid is the best because it’s their kid but what I mean by her being smart is she retains a lot of information especially for her age.  Her doctor was very surprised by her level of vocabulary, how well she can hold a pencil (which I didn’t know was a big deal lol) and just the way she speaks. Her doctor was surprised because she speaks better than most 5 year olds that come to visit the doctor.  I contribute that to the fact that even as a baby I would make sure to pronounce things correctly and even correct her when she pronounced something wrong.

A lot of people are probably thinking wow thats cruel or Who corrects a child that is learning….well I do because if you don’t tell them the Right way they won’t learn and due to me correcting her not in a rude way but in a loving parenting way and not speaking “baby talk” to her she knows how to speak properly of course not she has flaws in her speech but those are things we work on. I wanted to start from the beginning with her schooling I didn’t want to over work her so I made each lesson simple not to long it doesn’t take up our whole day. You do what works best for you and your child of course but for us it works best to keep it 2hrs and under. My child is exactly like her uncle if she starts getting bored youv lost her.

So week one we worked on the Letter A, the Number 1, the color Red and Circles for the shape of the week.  We also talked about how God created light. We reviewed these things all week with different activities and a few games.

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She loves the homeschooling even on her days off she wants to Learn but I give her Friday, Saturday & Sunday to rest Her mind and Monday we go back to it.

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Here are the things I used for week 1, I took pages out of the preschool book that you can purchase at Walmart. I took pages out for the letter A for her to work on.

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When it came to writing and tracing I didn’t push her because I know it will come with practice. I mostly just wanted her to be able to identify what letter it is and the difference between the uppercase and lowercase. We also went over the whole alphabet when we did our A part of the lesson. As in I slowed down the alphabet song and helped her properly pronounce each letter.  We also identified things that start with the letter A.  Which is why we picked out the Usborne astronaut book (which I do not recommend chapter books) 

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But her brothers chapter book and a deadly animals book (which scared the poop out of her)  were the only A books we had lol like I said we are in the process of building them their own little library. We also worked on the color red, for anyone that know my daughter she knows her colors she has known them for a while this part of her lesson was a breeze but it was when I started to introduce two colors making another she was very excited I didn’t take pictures but I used ketchup for the red and mustard for the yellow and let her mix them to see that they make orange.  Now I used that but you can use food coloring or even paint.

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We also learned how to cut with scissors (child safety scissors) don’t worry and we also went over safety tips for using scissors. We learned to use glue as well and I taught her that old saying just a dot not a lot lol she loves to say it as she puts glue on the paper.  All the worksheets I used are out of the preschool book I posted earlier in the post.  If you look closely you’ll see on each paper at the top it will say a day Monday-Thursday and we worked on that paper that day. 

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As far as shapes go its the same as colors my daughter pretty much knows her shapes can identify them very well so once again this part of our lesson went pretty quick. I also added in a sensory game for her that I saw on another mommy blog.  I put dry beans in a medium sized mixing bowl(circle) And put a few of her apples with words on them in it and she dug in it to find the words. I didn’t understand why a child would like this but to my surprise she loved it.

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We also used flash cards to help her identify the letter A which you can also purchase at Walmart. The apple words game can be purchased at Walmart also.

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I took all the A’s out to go with the lesson for the week and that’s what we worked with. We also went over simple top to bottom prewriting. I only had her do one line per day. As in a full left to Right line on Monday and so on for the other days lol.

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We went over the number One. Once again counting has not been a problem for my daughter for a while she can count up to 25 but I wanted to go deeper into numbers with her because it’s awesome she can count but what good is counting if she can’t identify the number she is counting.  We also went over how many times there were. I never went over two items just so she could understand the difference in what one item looks like verse what multiple items look like. She also traced the numbers but just remember what I said earlier I didn’t focus on her writing that will come the more we practice.

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Now as far as teaching about god creating light. I made it simple I went over briefly who god was to us, how important he is,  where we go when we die, And what we turn into (angels which starts with a….A) lol I told her on the first day god created light I covered her eyes and asked what she saw she said nothing lol I pulled my hands away and told her god created light so we were always in the dark. To me for a child of her age that is enough :). There are little light dark activities you could do so find what works best for you if you decide to out this in your lesson.  Every day before we started a new lesson we would go over the day before so I could see what she remembers and I would just add from there.  If by the end of her lesson she did Good she’d get a snack and a sticker (my kid is easy to please do what works best for yours). If she didn’t do go she would have to wait for her snack and received no sticker.  I would also place a sticker next to that day of the week if she did Good but if she didnt I would write a little note for myself so I could improve my plan and switch it up to something she’ll do better with.

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This is homeschooling on a budget lol.  I use what I can find at home beside the few things I picked up when we took our son back to school shopping when it was all at a discount :). I will post her lessons at the end of every week.  I hope this can help and/or inspire other parents to start their kids education early even if you don’t think you have the materials for it grab some paper and a pen start there 🙂

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It’s a….

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Beautiful side profile lol…..my ultrasound today was so awesome to say the least, our baby is the biggest comedian already….I am so happy to announce that our baby is a sweet bouncing baby….

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BOY!!! 

We are excited that we will welcoming our sweet baby boy in the world in May. This little boy did the most during our ultrasound before we even found out he was a boy he was putting himself on display lol.  Once the ultrasound tech who is awesome by the way her daughter and my little sister played softball together so she knows my dads side of the family. Anyway once she was done with all the shots she had to take for doctor she went and got the people I brought with me so we could find out gender.  As soon as she went back to looking at him he waved at us which was so cute.  He was very proud to show us his goods and to let us know just how proud of it he was lol.

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My poor baby has some of the biggest feet just like his daddy lol. I feel so bad because I am a tiny person And my poor baby is so cramped in my belly he has no where to go.  He is super long we couldn’t even get all of him on the screen.

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He gave us a lot of great pictures, he was a trooper and very photogenic lol.  He has some of the biggest lips like his mommy those things were the first thing we saw lol.  His heart is so strong and very healthy.

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He was a trooper up until mommy went potty then he was like OK this lady went to the bathroom time for bed lol.  He yawned at that time he was like OK I’m done. I gave you guys enough pictures Now….

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Leave me alone!!! He put his hand over his face and was like I’m done lol.  We decided to name him Jackson the only reason we decided on that name lol is because it’s the ONLY first name we agreed on 😂😂😂. Then came the middle name it didn’t take much to decide on a middle name we decided to go with the name Andrew this name means so much to my love and his family especially his aunt 🙂 I couldn’t be more happy to name our little boy after someone who was/still is so important to everyone in the family, someone who still lives in everyones heart and I’m so happy that we will be able to honor him in this way.   So come May 2016 we will be introducing our son Jackson Andrew to the world.

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Usborne Books & More

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I am a new Consultant for Usborne Books & More – awesome children’s books! I LOVE these books, and I’m thrilled about my new journey with this company. I’m honored to help change lives with these wonderful books. Usborne are fabulous books that capture a child’s imagination and interest. Ready for The Bookstore at your Door? Let’s do it!

Take a look at these wonderful books visit my link below and place a order if you see something your child or grandchild might like:

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I know a lot of people are rolling their eyes thinking oh great another person selling something. The way I look at it I can’t put a price on my kids education. We as parents put so much faith into the school system and completely forget that we still have to teach at home. I am very huge on my kids reading, because it all starts with literacy. It’s time to Make a Difference, any time is a good time to read. Get your kids off the technology and make them pick up a book. The best thing about Usborne Books is they work towards expanding your children’s minds and imagination.

We are quick to buy the newest technology, the hottest toy for our kids but what about books. What about something that will help grow their minds. We are quick to buy things for ourselves like Younique makeup or it works wraps, which I’m am not saying its wrong to buy those things. If it works for you that is great, if you are a consultant for those products that is great as well. I decided not to go with those products because for me to sell something I have to be able to get behind its movement. Which is why I decided to sell Usborne Books & More and become a Consultant, Literacy is something I can get behind because anymore we forget how important reading is and I want to bring back its importance and share mine and my kids love for reading with others. Usborne Books & More opens a whole new world of reading & imagination for your children.

If you have any questions please feel free to contact me. Please take a little time out visit my website and place a order if you find something you love, we have books for every school age, even books for babies and toddlers.

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Today I will be decorating and putting together my kids bookshelf that their poppop made for my little sister and I when we were my kids age. I’ll post pictures of that tomorrow. 🙂 Thanks for visiting my blog please take a moment to look at previous post that may interest you. Please also feel free to share any post that you enjoyed reading, there might be someone else who would enjoy it just as much.

How hard is it being a Wife and Mother??

If you all follow my facebook page MommyinMakeup I posted a video Monday Night. The video is of Jada Pickett Smith Answering her daughter Willow Smith’s question. Her question to her mother was How hard is it being a Wife and Mother? If you want to see the video here is the link:

Honestly I couldn’t have said Jada’s answer any better myself. As a wife and as a mother we get so caught up in trying to be perfect. Perfect for our Husbands, Perfect for our kids that we forget to be perfect for ourselves and to be true to ourselves. When we become mothers we fall into what other people tells us we need to be, what other people believe we have to be or else we will fail as mothers. Going out and taking time for ourselves in other eyes means your not taking care of your kids. The world makes us believe that if we leave our kids for just a second we are terrible mothers. So instead we make our lives all about our kids and all about our husbands, we completely forget that for us to have the ability to help our kids move forward and help our husbands achieve their goals we have to make our lives not only about them but about us. If I’m not happy and I am constantly blaming my kids or my husband because I take no time for me then I’m not exactly helping them. I become the problem not the solution, and as a mom we are the solution. The husband is the head and we are the heart, the spine, the lungs lol not saying men don’t care or they don’t help they do but as a mom we do things differently then our husbands and there is nothing wrong with that.

I remember when I first had my daughter I never did anything I can count on one hand how many times she stayed with someone else her first year of life. She never stayed longer than 2 hours with anyone, I did not go out and drink, I did not do anything that my daughter could not be there with me while I did it. Which also ment I spent a great deal of my time looking at the same four walls every day. If I went out I felt like I was being a bad mother, I felt like drinking was a huge no no because I have a baby girl at home who depends on me and needs me what if something happened to her while I was “getting drunk” I would never forgive myself. What if I left her with someone else and harm came to her I would NEVER forgive myself so I gave up all the me stuff and made it us stuff. It took a while for me to get out of that, not that I don’t still worry about her but I now know I can’t be a over protective mother and not let her go places and I can’t deprive myself of having a life outside of my kids and my fiance because at the end of the day we have to remember to take care of us first. Once mommy falls down they all fall down, that saying happy wife, happy life ok well I don’t believe in it a lot but I do believe that when mommy is happy the house stays balanced and you kids and your husband stay happy. Now that’s not in the terms of oh for me to be happy they have to do this..this…and this for me no. Mommy staying happy has to do with mommy keeping herself balanced and happy. You can’t expect your kids or husband/S.O to love you the “way you think you need to be loved” if you don’t even know how to love yourself.

Find something that makes you happy, that makes you think, that makes you find you again. I completely lost myself when I had my daughter and I got to the point that I was so depressed I didn’t want to move I was ready for it all to be over, but it wasn’t my daughters fault it wasn’t my fiances fault it was my own for forgetting how to take care of me and forgetting how to love me because I was giving all the love I thought I had at that point to my kids and my fiance I didn’t feel like I had any more love to give. I know some people are like i don’t know what your talking about I had my kids and I was perfectly fine…well that is awesome FOR YOU but not everyone has it like that. So many mothers fall into just being afraid that we just might fail and we forget that we are going to make mistakes but we have to keep going one mistake DOES NOT = a fail. We will make the wrong decisions for our families, we will make great decisions for our families, we will make a crap ton of mistakes because we are human and that is where you staying positive and happy comes into play because you won’t just give up, you’ll pick yourself/ you family up and keep it moving. Being moms we feel so much pressure, so much anxiety, so much just plain ol craziness that we forget to take a step back look at the bigger picture, love our kids, love our husbands, but we have to love ourselves as well.

P.S Everyone I am so so so happy to announce that I will now be selling children s books. I am so huge on reading with my kiddos and now I can share my love and help other parents show their kids the benefits of READING. To checkout the books we sell please visit my website link is below, if you have any questions please feel free to email me or fb message me. If you would like to book a event and have a chance to get free books let me know.

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Quick toy review

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We purchased this little ball of cute for our 3 year old they are called popples. Her name is bubbles they have different colors and two different sizes we decided not to get her the big One that talked because my fiance doesn’t like buying talking stuff lol as he puts it we have enough family that likes to buy talking stuff for our kids.  This little stuff troll think pops in and out of a pocket type thing lol the big ones do as well the only difference between the two is size and noise. The stuffed animal is from a netflix series called popples.

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This is her completely out of her pocket when we put her under the tree I put her in the tree so it was the first thing my kids noticed my daughter was so excited she loves her bubbles she has slept with her every night and tries key word tries to take her every where.  Bubbles was 10.00 before Christmas the bigger sizes were around 20ish. I do recommend this little stuff toy it is super cute and doesn’t take up a lot of room 🙂 I know a lot of people are thinking why did she do a review about a stuffed troll. Well I decided I was going to pick a toy that my kids Love and this stuffed troll is my 3 year olds favorite toy from Christmas. My next toy review will be on one of my sons favorite toys.