Hey guys I know it has been a while the holidays have been super crazy this year between last minute shopping, visiting a lot of family, work and just being pregnant. This year has been a struggle for the holidays, I def. have a love/hate relationship I love it so much because I get to see family that I don’t get to see a lot and it may be the one time of the year that we actually get to spend time with them. I love it because seeing my kids open their presents and have their faces light up when they get what they asked for its always great especially with my three year old lol we didn’t even wrap her toothpaste (which her dad suggested lol he is a goof like that) but when she seen it Christmas morning it was just sitting by the TV she flipped and was so excited because she had just ran out and she is a freak about brushing her teeth :). On the other hand though I hate it because between me and my fiance we have so much family to visit and they all decided to have something on the exact same day which was also the night we had to have our son back to his mom so he could open presents with her and his family on her side. So the whole day for us was timing making sure we spend just as much time with these family members and the others and making sure we are on time trying not to be to late to each event. Over all of course we loved seeing our family and opening presents but it just becomes so much some times especially with me being pregnant the next morning I had to have help getting out of bed it was just to much of a day for me. On top of that the night before Christmas eve we did all of our shopping for our kids now if you know me when Jody and Caleb came into my life and I started doing Christmas for a child I have made sure shopping is bought or shipped by the end of cyber Monday I hate waiting to the last minute but this year we have had so much going on and so many financial problems that Christmas almost did not even happen. I am very truthful when it comes to life because people need to understand that even if you try and you try and you push sometimes things still don’t pan out, but where there is a will there is a way and we made a way our kids were able to open presents with us and they loved what they got for the most part :p.
On top of all the holiday things I have been dealing with my own problems that could affect not only myself but my family and the only thing I can do at this point is pray and hope that everything will be OK. I won’t go into detail until I have more information so everyone will be left in the dark unless you are Jody so if I do know you don’t blow up my phone or Jodys thank you. I know this post seems like I am being super negative about the holidays lol I do love the holidays please don’t get me wrong spending time with my family ALL of my family (Jodys side included) means everything to me. This year has just been full of craziness a lot of love but a lot of craziness. The one thing I will always be is truthful I can’t sit here and pretend like the holidays are full of rainbows and sunshine (hahaha) its not! The holidays can do one of two things it can bring out the best in people or the worst in people and I have seen both I have seen people “pay it forward” during the holidays, I have witnessed a person take ten little kids tags off of a angel tree and spend his whole pay check so those 10 kids will have something for Christmas. I have also on the other hand seen people break out in a fight over a toy. I have notice the words merry Christmas no longer exist. I have seen people get into fights over the holidays when it should be about family coming together. I have seen parents just like their kids forget why we actually celebrate Christmas and why it is such a magical time of the year. I am not talking about when parents buy their kids a million gifts and post it on social media you know what more power to you that’s awesome that you have it like that to be able to buy your kids everything they asked for. For me personally even if I had the money my kids wont get everything because I know my kids and if I get them everything they asked for most of it would sit forever and never get played with so I will get them things they need a few things they want and always something to read.
When I say I have seen some parents forget why we celebrate Christmas its because society has us so convinced that the latest is the greatest our kids wont be happy unless they have it. We are so willing to drop $100-$200 on one item and lets face it prices are extremely high for everything; we bought our daughter this little turtle toy that swims $15.00 when we were growing up that would have been maybe $5.00. We are so willing to break the bank so our kids have the best but for some parents they are slapped in the face when their kid freaks out because it wasn’t the color they wanted or they wanted a bigger size what happened to just being grateful for the things you receive? Even if I hate the sweater I’ll wear it because someone that loves me bought it for me, I’ve been that way since I was little (mostly wore things I didn’t like around the person that bought the item though) still I was grateful someone spent their hard earned money on me when they didn’t have to. Parents will just let their kids be ungrateful and just push it aside and say don’t worry you don’t have to play with it I will return it and will a different color who care what freaking color it is. I work my butt off in my case at a job I enjoy but in some peoples case at a job they can’t stand and you want to be mad because I didn’t get the right color kid if you don’t go play with that toy I’ll give it to someone who will be grateful for it you better be lucky you got what you got because some kids didn’t get anything. This year there was one present my son received from his dad and I it was clothes it was the last pair of clothes he opened he started unwrapping it and looked at me and said really? At that point do you know how far my heart sunk I had to take out a loan to make sure they had Christmas and you are going to look at me and say really? more clothes I told him he didn’t have to wear them he could walk around naked and I could give them to someone else. He changed his attitude really quick about those clothes. Same with my daughter she got upset because at one of her grandparents house she was the only kid to receive clothes I told her to be grateful for what she got it doesn’t matter at least they thought about you enough to get you something. Kids don’t realize that we don’t have to get them anything SANTA doesn’t have to visit we as parents keep the spirit of SANTA going we as parents drop hundreds sometimes thousands of dollars to keep them young for as long as possible. Then you have the little bratty kids at school the go around telling other kids how stupid they are because they still believe in SANTA let me tell you something when I tell my kids there is not SANTA it is my prerogative not your kids if you tell you kids there is no SANTA tell him or her to keep it to themselves its not their little business if my child still believes or not. I saw a mother so crushed because her 6 year old son was being picked on at school for still believing in SANTA. If one of my kids come home crying because they are being made fun of for believing me and you will have a talk trust me I don’t go to the child I go to the source because they learn it from some where but bullying is a different topic. If you have stayed with my post this long don’t worry I am nearing the end I know its just a lot of ranting this year I have seen so much negative and it shouldn’t be that way during the holidays. Enjoy your family people Enjoy the love that surrounds you, create the love that can surround someone else, be the joy and love the world needs, one smile can make a difference, being generous can change someones life. Thursday I will be doing a toy review yay lol might as well let parents know what I think about some of the toys my kiddos got and if I recommend them.